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PlagmanResolved: Looking at porn privately is NOT cheating
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When a person gets married or otherwise involved with someone, they do not forfeit their right to a bit of privacy now and then. If a person likes to look at pornographic material, they should be free to do so, IF (like any other interest or hobby) it doesn't interfere with the responsibilities they took on in the relationship (children, time with the other person, work, etc.)
If a person wants to look at pornography in privacy, this should not be construed as being "mentally unfaithful" or cheating, as pornography has nothing to do with a loving relationship or intimacy with another person.
Humans are curious about sex by nature. A partner's interest in pornography may actually help strengthen a relationship, if it satisfies that person in some areas that the significant other may not care to participate in, or feels uncomfortable with.
People should not be required to ask permission for or otherwise share their private time unless they genuinely want to, as long as their private time does not bring harm or neglect to other aspects of the person's life.
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When a person gets married or otherwise involved with someone, they do not forfeit their right to a bit of privacy now and then. If a person likes to look at pornographic material, they should be free to do so, IF (like any other interest or hobby) it doesn't interfere with the responsibilities they took on in the relationship (children, time with the other person, work, etc.)
If a person wants to look at pornography in privacy, this should not be construed as being "mentally unfaithful" or cheating, as pornography has nothing to do with a loving relationship or intimacy with another person.
Humans are curious about sex by nature. A partner's interest in pornography may actually help strengthen a relationship, if it satisfies that person in some areas that the significant other may not care to participate in, or feels uncomfortable with.
People should not be required to ask permission for or otherwise share their private time unless they genuinely want to, as long as their private time does not bring harm or neglect to other aspects of the person's life.
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Remember to back your statements with reasons..fire away!
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I dont' have a spouse or partner, but every time I've tried to cheat on myself? I've caught myself out.
I've managed to patch things up with myself, and come to an agreement with myself that net porn is sort-of okay, and that I'm generally only hurting myself (not going into any brutal techniques here, okay?).
But I do worry that I'm hurting women who think it's just such a waste of a good man.
Love the pic.
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Glad to see that you've got matters so well in hand.
But you needn't be wasted..just use the other hand and reach out.....: D
Thanks--wasn't quite fast enough to get all the way behind that tree.
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Um ... okay ... I sometimes have one of my palms in my other palm
It's usually when I clap over a great performance due to having something else in either or both of my palms ...
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Thanks for the suggestion.
I usually use two slices of buttered bread.
Or two slices of rump steak basted in chilli and garlic butter. (I need some heat in my life).
I'll give a roll a go. There's a bit of leftover chilli and garlic butter. And let you know how things go.
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To me, it's a horrible thing for one person in the relationship to have to hide their taste in pornography from their partner.
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Cibby, precisely! It's a horrible thing to have any deception in what is supposed to be a relationship.
I think it has to do with over-analysis and relating every single thing to one's self. If someone happens to enjoy a bit of porn once in awhile, I see no reason for the other to take that personally..it's not like the person want to go out and marry the porn star.
(Oh, I set myself up for a lot of humorous comments on that one...
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